Mom bod

abdomen active activity belly button

I’ve heard of the dad bod but what about the mom bod? To me the word bod is a positive word. “Nice bod!” would be a compliment. I’ve read that the dad bod is actually appealing to women, that the image of a man with a little extra girth and less chiseled muscle makes us think of a man who cares for his children. A man who would be outside playing with his kids or coaching a kid’s team sport. However, women have much more pressure to look as thin and in shape as they did before kids. The mom bod may not be considered as desirable by our cultural standards. The mom bod is a body that was stretched to its max in many different areas to carry and birth a child. The mom bod is more squishy than toned. Yet, the mom bod is what a baby wants to cuddle up to.

The urban dictionary defines the mom bod as a Chick that was hot before she had a baby and is still banging even after she has had a baby, just her hips are a little wider, but damn do they make them yoga pants look good!

That’s a pretty positive definition. So we can all be shocked by the women who are back into shape a month post-partum in their yoga pants but every bod is different. This time around my bod didn’t pop back into shape the way it did after my first. So much so that I have been asked if I am pregnant again. I won’t take offence, I did just have a child and I WILL have a mom bod from now on. My body did exactly what was intended to create life. Beyond that, working out isn’t quite as high on my priority list. Being healthy is, but not by lifting lots of weights or running or biking long distances like my before kids self. Now, if I get outside to walk our neighborhood, clean the house, or chase my daughter around in the basement that is good enough exercise for the day.

Mom’s need to focus on what works for them to stay healthy and in shape. I would never advocate not exercising because that is crucial to staying healthy, but exercise doesn’t have to mean going to that Zumba or weight strengthening class at the gym. Exercise can mean pushing a stroller to the park or dancing with your baby on your hip to nursery tunes. Whatever your exercise is…

just keep moving!

Don’t sit down too long or momma you are not getting back up. I know that all too well. I have to keep moving after work or I start feeling like I may be too tired to get through the rest of the evening. We know there is plenty to do.

Chores are exercise! Lucky for us…

Some evenings I go up and down our stairs two dozen times just doing laundry and chasing my toddler. One morning, I may be on my hands and knees scrubbing sticky spots off the floor for a half hour. One afternoon, I might decide to vacuum with a baby strapped to my body.

Just keep moving!

If your job keeps you mostly at a desk, ask for a standing desk or take time to get up and move every hour. Take a walk on your lunch break.

Just keep moving!

No matter what your mom bod looks like make sure you are happy with who you are. If you want to lose some baby weight be intentional with what you want to look like. Of course be reasonable too, you’re never going to look the same way you looked before children. Be happy with your mom bod, it did amazing things! Look at your children’s sweet faces and love your mom bod!

Happy Mother’s Day!

My body is neither the source of my strength nor a source of shame. My body just is. – E.J. Dickson, ELLE online

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Toothbrushes, babies and two minutes

“Two minutes! That’s all I’m asking for people!” I shout half serious, half kidding. Two minutes is how long my electric toothbrush’s setting is. It’s new to me, I’ve only had it a couple months. If you have one you’ll know you do not ever take it out of your mouth during or try to hold it in between your teeth hands free. You will be either showered in spit and paste or have your teeth vibrated out. So that means you need at least one hand to brush. For a mom with two littles that’s not something I have very often and especially not when I’m the one who needs it.

So here I am in my daily morning routine of holding a baby in one arm, brushing my teeth with the other and using my leg or slobbering grunts to discourage my toddler from putting the toothpaste in the toilet.

It’s such an interesting stage of life. Where you literally are not allowed a private moment. At least not without hearing a baby screaming for you or a toddler banging on the door asking what you’re doing. I wouldn’t say that is very private. A bath? Oh, please that luxury takes way too long and there’s usually a day’s worth of cloth diapers floating in a bucket in the tub. Ew! Ok, a shower? Maybe with a screaming naked baby laying outside the door or a toddler asking what you’re doing. You have to poop? Well, make it snappy honey and plan on a toddler asking what you’re doing. My coworker made fun of me saying she would tell my boss the reason I was late this week was because I had to poop before I left for work. I acted outraged, “You think I have time to poop at home?!”

I find all this pretty funny most of the time and know this is just a stage in my life. Anyway, it makes for great stories.

The other comment I made this morning was, “Daddy, how’d we get so blessed to have two beautiful daughters?!”

Love you girls!

And many more~

gray cat next to cupcake

I like to think that each year I am a little wiser than the last. That maybe I learned from some of my mistakes I made over the last ….years. I’m not ashamed of my age, but I’m not sharing it today. Our culture makes 30 years seem like your best years could be over, but mine just started at 30. I have been enjoying my 30’s so much and have learned more than I ever thought possible after becoming a mother. Growing older is a gift. Each year I’m given is wonderful. The day that your age changes should be celebrated. Celebrate your life now! Enjoy yourself and be around the people you love. Take extra time to do the things you love and take advantage of YOUR special day! It is not just another day, it is a day to be extra thankful for all the days you have been given and hopefully many more to come! “and many more”~

My mom always tells me she is happy where she is at and would never want to go back. I agree with her that each year I am happy to move on to the next and see what is in store. I lived my life and whether good or bad years, it is all behind me. I am able to start anew each day and on my special day this year I want to hope for an even better year to come. I know this year of my life will be filled with wonderful things and I look forward to each day I am given!

A happier healthier you

Being healthy to me means taking care of mind, body & soul. All three together is what will make you a healthy person!

Being healthy is a choice and a battle.

Choice

  • What would you rather do
  • Time can be easily wasted

Battle

  • Access to excess
  • What is easier

You have to work at it because the easy way is usually the unhealthy way. You have to make time to be healthy.

Time is an emotion.

– Tony Robinson

When you say you don’t have time you actually mean you don’t want to put in the emotional effort to do it. Or you chunk something instead of thinking about the real outcome and the progress it takes to meet your goal.

For example, running a marathon. If you just think about the pain related to running that far and the total distance of 26.2 miles, it will completely overwhelm you and you will never want to try. If you break it up and think, I can run 3 miles now and 3 miles more every 2 weeks. Then you would be to 26.2 in 4 ½ months. I wouldn’t necessarily suggest running a marathon to be your healthy choice. I’m not one to get a rush from pushing my body to its limits. I enjoy exercise that is enjoyable. Here are some ways I try to be healthy:

Mind

  • Think positive
  • Meditate or take time to clear my mind
  • Write and journal
  • Read

Body

  • Get outside
  • Walk/run
  • Stretch/yoga
  • Use my muscles

Just because something is hard to do doesn’t mean it has to be a burden. I try to always think of it as exercise and not avoid it or complain. Examples:

  • Carrying heavy grocery bags
  • Parking far away and having to walk
  • Picking up and holding my child
  • Pushing a stroller up hill

Soul

  • Pray often
  • Read the Bible
  • Listen to Christian radio
  • Do things for others

Do I have the time or the emotional will power to make all these happen daily? The jury is still out on that one, but I try my best to be healthy each day. Not only does it make me a healthier person but also a happier person!

What is a mind, body or soul goal that you have not put the emotional effort into yet?

Love Easter

The celebration of Easter and the resurrection is the most important Christian holiday. Jesus’ resurrection is proof that we will be raised from the dead and join him in heaven if we only believe and trust in him. However, for Jesus to be resurrected he also needed to die. This is the part we don’t like to focus on and many times avoid thinking about. It’s cruel and frustrating to think of our King being beaten, tortured and killed because of us. He died for us. This was the only way. God sent his son to be our Savior.

Before Jesus was turned over to authorities, given a trial and a death sentence he was betrayed. That betrayal came from one of his followers, a disciple. Jesus showed love to everyone but spent most of his time teaching his disciples so they could go on to share the good news of his resurrection. One of the last things Jesus said to his disciples was a command.

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
John 13:34‭-‬35 NIV

Jesus was saying follow me, be like me and that is how others will come to know me. By showing love in all circumstances others would have to wonder what makes that possible. It is such an amazing request. Very simple, yet so hard for us to accomplish. Our selfish nature makes it difficult to think of others over ourselves. However, each time we show love we are bringing someone that much closer to Jesus. He was our supreme and perfect example of love, giving himself over to people who he knew would eventually kill him. He wasnt giving up but proving he was who he said he was. Jesus’ death and resurrection was his destiny. The prophesy was fulfilled.

On this Easter holiday follow Jesus and show love to everyone.

Obligatory shares

Is it wrong if a Christian does not actively spread the word? Do Christians have an obligation to share their faith?

“Go into all the world and preach the gospel to all creation.”
Mark 16:15 NIV

According to the Bible, yes we do. Once you realize that, you start to feel the overwhelming need to share. I read about an atheist likening Christians not spreading the good news to a person not pushing another out of the way of a bus about to hit them. I also read about someone who doesn’t respect a Christian that won’t share their faith with others.

As a Christian, we believe in heaven, hell, and souls. We believe that our souls will go to hell if we do not accept Jesus as our savior. A valid comparison is: If we would save someone’s life on earth, then why wouldn’t we do everything in our power to save someone’s eternal soul?

I never took spreading the gospel to this extreme. I always figured everyone has free will and it’s not exactly my job on earth to make you believe what I believe. It seems people really don’t want to take the time to hear about someone else’s religion. People are too busy to answer the door, open it and hear about Jesus. People may not want to dedicate one of only two days they get to sleep in to get up and go to church to hear the gospel.

I may not be able to force someone to:

  • listen to me
  • hear me
  • read my blog
  • come to church
  • read the Bible

But I can keep:

  • learning more about God’s word
  • writing my blog
  • sharing my faith
  • inviting others to join me

Christians do have an obligation to spread the gospel. We should feel a need to save souls. All we can do is plant the seeds and hope God can make the faith grow.

It’s our job to sow seeds not to pull weeds – Colin Smith

It is worth your effort if even one of your seeds you plant in another person grows into a faith in God. How wonderful it will be to meet once again in heaven. In a place where we will be with God who is our loving creator.

How can we sow seeds of faith?

April Fool!

Happy April Fool’s Day! My husbands favorite day of the year, not! It happens to be a day I thoroughly enjoy because this day supposedly makes it okay to tease people. From silly signs or pictures to changing every clock in the house an hour ahead, this is a fun day for me. Now that I have two little ones I have less time to devote to one of my favorite days. So today this character sat at my boss’s desk, then moved to mine. Here’s some good captions:

  • I’ve been worked to the bone.
  • Works been killing me.
  • Your replacement.

Give me your best caption!

The sacredness of life

Are you really pro life? The other day I listened to a woman talk about this topic and it really got me thinking.

Do you consider all lives equally important? Elderly, disabled, every culture, poor, born and unborn? Pro life would mean you promote life in all aspects. When we say we are pro life we usually are limiting it to we are against abortion. If we are truly pro life we would consider all people’s lives sacred, and in the hands of God, not our own.

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
Psalm 139:14 NIV

My thoughts are based on a faith and emotional connection to the issue not a scientific or political view. However, even science can explain that a heartbeat starts only six weeks after conception, which is the indication of life since a pulse is taken to confirm a death. A baby is only the size of a marble at this point. The heart is formed first and stops last. A brain cannot function without a heart but a heart can function without a brain. Our heart is central to our being.

When I became a mother my opinion on abortion turned into a very strong feeling. I looked at that line meaning I was pregnant and was shocked but overjoyed! I watched my growing belly, wondering who this little one inside me would become. I looked at the sweetest face I had ever seen in my life when she was born. I had a love that I couldn’t even put into words. God loves each and every one of his creations even more than I love my daughters or can even fathom. God made the choice for each one of us to be here and has a plan for your life.

My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
Psalm 139:15 NIV

After becoming a mom, I was very emotional. I would cry happy tears just looking at my child’s face but I couldn’t help thinking about all the children out there that are not given the love that my child has from me. It broke my heart, someone so innocent and needy, that will fall in love with your face just because you are mom. That child will depend on you for everything and will become who they are because of you. It is a big responsibility but the greatest gift.

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
Psalm 139:13 NIV

I think of all the women who want to be mothers so badly, but have fertility issues. Or mothers who lost children that they loved dearly, who would give anything to have them in their arms again. For women that want to adopt a child and would love an unwanted child like their own. Abortion promotes a nonchalance towards life. It disregards the amazing gift life is.

Pro life vs. Pro choice is such a hot button topic again. Last year, Northern Ireland changed it’s very strict abortion laws giving more choice. Iceland claimed they cured down syndrome by screening all pregnancies and aborting all babies with a chance of downs. Countries are allowing assisted suicides for people that have terminal illness. With life beginning to become more and more of a choice than a right.

I share my faith and my feelings now especially after becoming a mother. It is not our choice to take the life of a baby or anyone at any stage of life. As a mother with a life inside your body you are the caretaker of a miracle that God has given. God considers every single life precious. He created each life and only he has the authority over when each heart should stop beating.

Choose life.

Are you free?

Freedom. What comes to your mind when you hear the word? The country we live in? Freedom of speech? Freedom to do whatever you want? Yet, the greatest freedom is a freedom from our sins. This is the good news that only comes from Jesus. God sent his son to die for us to deliver us from our sins. If we accept this then we don’t have to worry about our sins. We are set free.

As a Christian, sin can be a heavy burden. We feel we should be better. We feel that we should be able to beat sin. We feel guilty! If you are aware of your sins then you know when you go wrong. Sometimes you can feel you do more wrong than right. Or you know exactly what you want to do but still make the same old mistakes.

If you want the burden of sin to be lessened you need to focus on the word. We need to turn to God and turn away from our sins. Don’t let sin be the focus. Everyone of us sins, but Jesus died for all. Each and every one of us. Accept that and you too are free.

Freedom can take on a whole new meaning when you look through the lens of a believer. You can be at peace with your sin. Your sin won’t seem like a big file cabinet that will be carried with you forever, but a moment that is easily wiped away. You can turn away from your sins and feel the freedom of forgiveness. That freedom will lead you to your eternal home in heaven.

So Christ was sacrificed once to take away the sins of many; and he will appear a second time, not to bear sin, but to bring salvation to those who are waiting for him.
Hebrews 9:28 NIV

Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.
2 Corinthians 3:17 NIV

I will walk about in freedom, for I have sought out your precepts.
Psalm 119:45 NIV

What makes us feel like we are not free?

My lucky number

The number two is my lucky number. It’s the number I always pick when someone says, “Pick a number.” Well, I picked two again! I was well aware when I got pregnant that I would have a toddler and a newborn at the same time. Terrible two’s and a newborn baby that doesn’t sleep for more than a two hour stretch at night. Two kids within two years. I am so blessed.

But wow, this is hard too. Actually, I’ve been taking on this change pretty well. My husband on the other hand has hoped his toddler hit him hard enough in the goods this time to stop us from adding more children to our family. We have to have a sense of humor about this small circus otherwise we’d really lose it. Never in my younger life would I have thought I would have two littles, let alone less than two years apart. My young self said, “I’m on the ten year plan.” when talk about kids came up. Then one day your feelings change and you can’t stop. Gosh, a baby’s face is something I could look at forever. I told my husband, “this just cannot be the last time I look into a sweet face like this.” He replied with, “Oh yes it will be!” As he wrangled our two year old towards the potty. Yes, now I only know how to use words like “potty”, “poopy”, and “booty”. Yet, I need to spell other words to keep my toddler out of the loop. Oh, and I must watch every single word I say so it isn’t repeated in the quietest part of the sermon on Sunday.

Also this is only the beginning. Once we decided to become parents over two years ago we also realized it would be more than eighteen years before this most interesting part of our lives would sink back into a quiet two some routine. By the way, eighteen years would be the absolute minimum. If that last punch in the man goods didn’t make my husband sterile there’s still a chance he may weaken once he gets more than two hours of sleep a night.

Life is so interesting. I wouldn’t have it any other way. All the parents of grown children always say that their favorite time was when the kids were small. Maybe not quite as small mine, but once you can take them places and go on adventures. When I was a kid we use to park hop on weekends which was super fun. Someday soon I want to park hop and create other fond memories with my two children. We will have to see how long my lucky number is only two.

Children are a heritage from the Lord , offspring a reward from him.
Psalm 127:3 NIV

What is your lucky number?